Introduction – Stop Talking, Start Listening
Gary Vee says: “The number one skill in business is empathy.”
For pubs, that means listening harder than you talk. Customers don’t just want cheap pints or a quiz night. They want to feel heard, valued, and part of the story. In 2025, empathy isn’t just good manners — it’s a marketing weapon.

Why Empathy = Profit
- 70% of consumers say they buy more from brands that make them feel understood (Forbes, 2024).
- Pubs with active customer feedback loops see 20–30% higher repeat visits (CGA Strategy, 2024).
- Social media posts that ask for opinions get 2× more engagement than sales posts (HubSpot, 2024).
Empathy = loyalty. Loyalty = steady cash flow.
Step 1: Turn Social Media Into Two-Way
Gary says: “Don’t just post — reply.”
- Ask questions in captions (“What should we add to curry night?”).
- Run polls in Instagram stories.
- Reply to every comment, even with a simple emoji.
When customers feel heard online, they show up offline.
Step 2: Bring Customers Into Decisions
Hospitality thrives on inclusivity.
- Let customers vote on new cocktails.
- Ask what bands they want for live music.
- Run competitions for menu naming.
Customers love being co-creators.

Step 3: Show Gratitude Publicly
Gary Vee preaches “kindness scales.”
- Post thank-yous to loyal customers.
- Share milestones (birthdays, anniversaries celebrated at your pub).
- Celebrate reviews instead of just replying privately.
Public gratitude = powerful marketing.
Step 4: Train Staff in Empathy
It’s not just about online. Empathy must live in the room.
- Staff greet regulars by name.
- Handle complaints with patience, not defensiveness.
- Share feedback openly and act on it.
Customers remember how you make them feel more than what you sell them.
Step 5: Turn Complaints Into Content
Gary says: “Your haters are your greatest gift.”
- Share how you fixed a customer issue.
- Show upgrades based on feedback.
- Post “you asked, we listened” stories.
It turns criticism into loyalty.

Case Study – Poll That Packed a Night
One pub ran a poll: “Should we bring back steak night?”
- 200 people voted yes.
- The pub reposted the result with: “You asked, we listened.”
- Result: fully booked steak night the next week.
Simple empathy = profit.
Mistakes to Avoid
- Only posting offers — feels one-sided.
- Ignoring complaints or deleting negative comments.
- Asking for opinions but never acting on them.
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Conclusion – Empathy = Attention + Loyalty
Gary’s philosophy is clear: listen first, talk second.
For pubs, that means turning every comment, poll, and review into a chance to build loyalty. When customers feel seen, they don’t just visit once — they come back for life.
